Lady Killers

I read a great article a few months ago about pastor's wives and some of the biggest difficulties they face entitled "Spouse Killers in the Ministry".  I know Jess has faced all of them at times, and she has had her battles.  I thank God everyday that he blessed with me with such a wonderful wife that can not only support me and the ministry God has called me to, but also serve in her own capacity.  It's true that often more is expected of a pastor's wife than other women in the church, and God seems to usually supply His pastors with someone more than capable of filling that role while complimenting the ministry of their husband.  For my pastor friends, you understand how valuable our spouses are in both life and ministry. 

We have been blessed to be involved in ministries where the church has always been wonderful to Jess for the most part.  Not forcing her to do things she doesn't feel led to do, not forcing her to change to match their personal preferences, and always respecting her sacrifices to minister, and allow me to minister, how God leads.  Having said all that, I know she still deals with all of the major issues mentioned in the article, as do most other pastor's wives.  I pray that God continues to give her the ability to focus on God and His love and will for her and our family.  I pray the same for all my friend's families who are in ministry (lay and pastoral).  They are crucial to being able to fully serve God in the capacity He has called us to.  A Time Magazine survey sited the number one cause of pastor's leaving the ministry to be pastors' wives' issues.  Satan has been attacking the wives of pastors as much as he attacks the pastors.  It is my guess that pastors receive far more prayer for God's help, we should all be lifting up the ladies as well.